As I sat at my desk that afternoon, I tapped my fingers impatiently and took a deep breath to compose myself for the conversation. I was mentally rehearsing every disrespectful word and action that had taken place in our classroom; the moment had come to reveal the truth that her son was NO ANGEL. After several rings, this unsuspecting mother picked up the phone and took on the role of defense attorney (after I had stated my case). Although the evidence was accurate, the student's backstory was introduced and then love entered into the equation, shifting the balance in this young man's favor. I remember going to bat for my son many times during his formative years. In retrospect, the filter of love caused me to see the best in him when others pointed out a flaw. God is so much like that, with one key difference--He sees us at our worst and is fully cognizant of our inadequacy. Our Father loves us lavishly and unconditionally. The month of February often projects an image of "love", but does it promote the substance of love? Love that leaves a lasting mark?
I have been reflecting lately on the role that love has played in my own life. I realize that the very thought of Valentine's Day can be triggering for many people. Both positive and negative memories eventually crystallize and give rise to the behavioral patterns that we display today. Perhaps we bear the scars of counterfeit love and carry that pain into our relationship with others, and, yes, even with God. Churches often reinforce the idea that we are not worthy enough to stand in our position of sonship. So where have we missed the mark? Loving well means offering unconditional love--First, to ourselves, and then, to others. This love requires a commitment to celebrate others rather than merely tolerating them. In fact, this love is not performance-based or rooted in the self. It goes against our natural grain because it does not have earthly origins. We must look to God because it takes supernatural ability to see the worst in ourselves and others and still allow the scales to tip in the favor of unconditional love.
What do tattoos, birthmarks and wedding rings all have in common? I'm so glad that you asked. There is some degree of permanence, affiliation or a specific bond represented. You can often see family resemblance through a pronounced feature or dimple on someone's face. Similarly, although you may remove a wedding ring, the imprint remains as an undeniable testament to your covenant. Not to mention the growing tattoo trend, so often used to mirror inner feelings or to preserve self-identify. Why does any of this matter? The defining mark of a true believer is LOVE. This is not a forced or fabricated emotion, but instead, it is a conscious choice to live intentionally as heaven's "love ambassador"--preferring others with no strings attached. This mark of love is decisive, indelible, and impactful. To be sure, this mark separates the genuine from the counterfeit, much like a watermark. Governments employ the watermark to guarantee validity and protect something precious. The mark of love excludes you from living an ordinary life.
Ultimately, we are fully known by Our Savior and fully loved. In my book, Storm Chasers, Day 14, I relate my journey into understanding the infinite love of God through a parenting experience. (Please check it out) But the essence of that chapter is that even when your concerns seem trivial to others, God hears your voice as sweet music and delight. You are favored by The One who flung the stars onto the canvas of the universe. Because of the grace we have been shown, we can extend our hands and cultivate seeds in the garden of destiny. So often, we are tempted to abandon the potential in others because of the weeds. Valentine's Day is not limited to romantic gestures; in reality, it serves as a defining moment for all of us. What better time is there to spread contagious hope by loving others well? Whether next week consists of Netflix and popcorn or flowers and filet mignon, you are beautiful and complete. Love without limits and serve without expectation. Wherever you are, be encouraged to mark your sphere of influence with the infinite love of God.
Isaiah 54:10 (NIV) Though the mountains be shaken and the hills be removed, yet my unfailing love for you will not be shaken nor my covenant of peace be removed,” says the LORD, who has compassion on you.
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